Sad news about Sadie. Artie is not going to be able to manage her and asks that I take her back which is what he and I agreed upon from the beginning. 
This is really sad as we all want to believe in happy endings!! 
I believe that I was too rigid with Sadie and Artie is too laid back and he cannot bring himself to crate her at night but wants her to sleep with him and BB. Thing is if he leaves the doggie dog open she goes out does her business and then barks at 2 or 3am. If he closes the doggie door she peepees on the floor. She was used to being crated at night and was always dry in the morning so I think this is a behavioral thing. Additionally, she is very demanding of his attention and his other rattie does not like that.......Same problem I had so perhaps Sadie is best suited to be the only dog in the house? 
I am going to be out of the state and or country until January 24th. Artie has agreed to keep Sadie until that time. 
Meanwhile, I would ask that if anyone knows of a home where they think Sadie would be happy and well cared for please contact me at vlr3@aol.com If i cannot find her a better home I will take her back as it is my responsibilty but this will be difficult to do as my Macy has just gotten to where she trusts me again and loves being the only dog in the house herself. She is back to her friendly cuddly self and I hate to see her miserable again....something I think Artie is struggling with with Sadie and BB. Sadie is really a good dog. She is just being a rattie and needs the right home environment and structure.........I live in CT if anyone is interested and Artie lives right accross the border in NY.

All my best,
Vickie

Ashley,

Thanks. Artie and I are both sick about this. Please keep Sadie in your thoughts that she will have a Magical and Happy HOME soon.

Best,

Vickie

Thank you sooo much Sarah.

best,

Vickie

Shannon: Sadie is not high energy she is calm and likes to cuddle, but BB does not like the fact that Sadie will not let BB come near me, Sadie wants me all to her self. Sadie needs to be in a home were she can give love and not put up with another dog. Sadie is a great dog with lots of love to give. ARTIE

Well, I'm glad you are committed to finding her another home!  I have to say though that your description of her fits my dogs and many ratties (except that they aren't needy like my whippet is, they are just very involved in everything I do).  It is up to me as the "alpha" to divide attention equally and keep a happy "pack". 

Apparently Artie wasn't able to do this (or didn't want to) but I'm just saying that you don't need to automatically rule out a household with other dogs as long as the potential adopters are aware of her personality....many experience multiple dog owners can deal with this just fine!

No offense intended to Artie, just trying to say there may be more options for Sadie than you realize.  Some people can successfully deal with multiple dogs.

It's true, Mary Beth.... and everyone... much depends on the human. It's the responsibility of the human to establish necessary boundaries and teach the dogs how to interact with one another... as well as learning how to control the 'pack' (and yes... it IS a pack.  In a dog's mind, anything more than one is a pack). The first thing to understand about handling a multiple dog household is that you have not simply gathered together two or more dogs to live with you. You have established a "pack" of dogs that has its own hierarchy, communications, benefits and challenges. For a human to operate in his/her rightful spot within the pack, you will need to firmly, but not aggressively, establish yourself as the pack member in charge.

I could set out some things that need to be done to make the transition successful, but if Artie isn't even willing to crate Sadie... then to do so would serve no useful purpose. Sometimes, a particular dog DOES need to be an "only dog" if he/she can't successfully fit into the pack. It does happen this way sometimes. However, it usually takes more than a month to recognize that it won't work. Paul I know had a doberman he rehomed to a family member. He had Sasha for almost two years and she simply did not fit in. Now that she's in another home, she's doing beautifully and he gets to see her often. He gave it a fair shot... and finally did what he felt was best for the dog. So yes... it does happen.... but in all fairness (not meaning to be offensive... simply stating a fact)... people usually do allow more than a month to make that determination.

So all of that having been said....I too am grateful that at least a good home is being sought and they aren't taking the little dog to a kill shelter.

Vickie -- is that Sadie in your avatar picture? If so.. she's really pretty!

Hi Vickie, just out of curosity, our dog Phoenix is never crated, he's great in the house. If we were to get another, that needed to be crated, would that cause problems between the dogs? I'm just asking for info, as we have never had more than one dog, and would like to have another in the future.

Tracy

Tracy,

I believe that would depend on your own situation. I do not think it is a black and white issue and many people have lots of different type arrangements for their pets sleeping quarters. Perhaps some of the others can give you a better answer than me. My older dog was crated until she was a little over 1  year before she was given free reign of the house. Sadie is 2 y/o this month and she still was crated at night and when unattended. I am sure much of it depends on the dog? 
Anyone, want to answer this for Tracy?

thanks,

Vickie 

Sorry  y'all  but  the crate is not the answer. Sadie loves her freedom and that's normal. I'm going to keep Sadie and we will work things out, were getting to be a team. I think I was beening  selfish. BB was no picnic as a pup,I wanted to kick her butt at times but stuck it out and look at her now. Sadie is a smart dog and must know something was up because she has been good this week and darn it, I love her. And If I have any more trouble, Vicki will have to come and live with me. lol    Thank y'all for all your help I know you want the best for us.

Merry Christmas  Artie , BB and Sadie

What great news Artie!!! I can imagine how you felt, it tugs at the heart I'm sure it will only get better!

I'm so glad you are going to work this out!!! Good luck to you and Sadie!!!