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treble02

Alpha Feist

07/21/2007 7:22 PM
sheeesh Trixi is being MOOODY! I took her for a long walk this afternoon, let her dig and everything...been giving her treats and playing with her...but she wants nothing to do with me except for my food. If i reach my hands out to pick her up or snuggle her, she tries to bite me or runs away like im a bad guy....she is hurting my feelings ....no but seriously..whats up with this???

~ Mary, Trixi and Toa's Mommy, Ratbone Rescues Database Manager and Applications Coordinator

rattytatty

Newbie

07/21/2007 7:47 PM
You mentioned giving her treats... but you didn't say WHY you are giving her treats? Are you training her and the treats are being used as incentives and rewards? Or... are you just giving them to her because you are playing with her? If you are giving them just because you are playing and she likes them... stop. It sounds like you need to concentrate on training the "come" command on a long line... and when she DOES come, you give her a tiny treat... something really really yummy (I used either chicken, bits of hot dogs or stringed cheese). Make her EARN her treats. With time, she will learn to respect you and learn that unless she does as you ask, she gets NO treats.

treble02

Alpha Feist

07/21/2007 7:50 PM
i will work on the commands...come, sit, stay and heel...are those the basics? oh, and OFF...for when shes trying to "attack" me and i will try to ONLY give her treats when she LISTENS!!!!

~ Mary, Trixi and Toa's Mommy, Ratbone Rescues Database Manager and Applications Coordinator

michelle_custer

Rat-A-Tat-Tat

07/21/2007 7:55 PM
Domino usally has a hard time listeing to he gets corrected but if i snap my fingers and use a (outside voice sorry i work with kids so i talk to domino like he is one of them) he knows he has done something wrong. We usaully eat dinner in the living room and he knows all the basic commands but were still workin on heel if he gets to close we say that its mine and he knows not to touch it

My Rats are my babies and I wouldnt trade them for anything in the world

rattytatty

Newbie

07/21/2007 8:47 PM
I wouldn't worry about any command but the "come" command for the time being. What good is "sit" if she won't come to you to sit. What good is "down" if she won't come to you to down? Come is THE most important command. Good recall can save your dog's life. It sounds like she needs to learn to come and not back away from you. You can lure her with a treat... say "Trixi... COME!" (emphatically) When she comes, praise her BIG TIME and give her a treat. I would work on ONLY this until she's totally responsive. Her responsiveness will carry over later when you attempt to train the other commands. One thing at a time... slow...and consistent. Be patient. These things take time.

Bokilink

Rat Royalty

07/21/2007 8:51 PM
I thought I was the ONLY one who had a dog who HATES them. Boomer hates me but LOVES my husband... (maybe its because I am the disiplinarian and always tell the dogs and kids no....) Boomer will not cuddle with me... I will call him and he will come sit for 1 second... I will pet him and talk softly to him and he just gets up and walks over to my hubby and lays with him... it makes me sad..... I tell my husband that all of our dogs are suppose to be my dogs (I was the one who wanted to get them picked them out and train them) but they all hate me..... I am not mean to them.... I love each of them so much and consider them part of my family..... but the just gravitate to my husband.....I wanted a little dog because I wanted a dog that would sit on my lap..... and he sits with the old man!!!!! sad really sad I am......

Jules

Firehouse Big Dog

07/21/2007 9:11 PM
How old is she, is she going into heat? My dog was my best buddy, then all the sudden when she went into heat she started hating me and sided with her dad. Up til then i could take her out with no lead. I took her out during that period of time and she ran away from me and almost got hit by a car. It took a few weeks but she started liking me again lol She gets moody sometimes tho even now that she is spayed and she sticks to my boyfriend like glue and wont come to me what so ever. Maybe she is just having issues with hormones.

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jeremy

Rattie

07/23/2007 9:30 AM
Bandit is not much of a snuggler yet either. He's just too busy for it! He's only 5 months now though & has only begun "settling down" once in a while. Of course if you so much as turn to look at him, he'll bounce back up ready to play... I don't think your dog hates you! It sounds more like she's controlling your interactions & enjoying it too. Definitely listen to Nora, COME is the most important thing a dog can learn! Bandit slipped his collar & bolted a few weeks ago in the middle of a PetsPlus store! Boy was I glad to see that little wiggler come running straight back to me when I whistled! – Phew!! As far as dogs liking husbands more, I don't personally think it has anything to do with being the disciplinarian (I'm the meanie in my house). IME, no amount of giving/doing nice things for a dog (how we humans often show love) will make it love you more than being a good leader. I say this tentatively, but I think it has more to do with pack order. IME, dogs seem to respond more "naturally" to male leadership & buddy up with the man of the house (probably 'cuz we smell worse right? ). It was always that way with my parents' dogs. Mom would be home with them all day & they'd just be pining for my dad to get home so they could worship him some more... Doing some leadership excercises with the dog might help the situation for you some. It did work for my mom. One of their newer dogs really had no respect or love for her, but once she put in the effort to show the dog her place (forcing the dog to stop & sit behind her before being allowed out of the door - never bolting out first in front of my mom for example), their relationship really did improve (witholding treats until they obey you is another easy way, as Nora said). Best of luck to you!! I'm sure you two will work things out!

treble02

Alpha Feist

07/23/2007 9:34 AM
thanks you guys so much and were working on it!! How old is she, is she going into heat? My dog was my best buddy, then all the sudden when she went into heat she started hating me and sided with her dad. Up til then i could take her out with no lead. I took her out during that period of time and she ran away from me and almost got hit by a car. It took a few weeks but she started liking me again lol She gets moody sometimes tho even now that she is spayed and she sticks to my boyfriend like glue and wont come to me what so ever. Maybe she is just having issues with hormones she could be i guess....shes about 7-8 months old....im taking her in early august to be spayed so hopefully she will wait until then! hehe...we had a great day yesterday...went for a walk to the park...i let her off her leash and she came to me EVERYTIME...right away! such a good girl! YAY TRIXI!

~ Mary, Trixi and Toa's Mommy, Ratbone Rescues Database Manager and Applications Coordinator

Mitzy's Mom

PAWesome

07/23/2007 10:32 AM
Glad she's doing good!

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jeremy

Rattie

07/23/2007 11:05 AM
Awriiiiiight TRIXI! That's great news!

Susan

Terrier Terror

07/23/2007 12:53 PM
keep it up and be consistant! I tell my human kids, If you can't train a dog, you won't be able to train a child.

ANYTHING WORTH DOING IS WORTH OVERDOING Mom of eight, only three left at home! Pack leader to ten ratties: Maggie, Mysty, Berry, Simon, Ceecee and five puppies, Star,Sari, Bluebelle, Double stuf,and Snortie. As well as Ginger the Border Collie and a herd of turkeys!

KristenP

Ratastic

07/24/2007 8:27 PM
good advice susan

rattytatty

Newbie

07/27/2007 11:37 AM
Posted By Susan on 07/23/2007 12:53 PM keep it up and be consistant! I tell my human kids, If you can't train a dog, you won't be able to train a child. (It's much easier to train a dog... cuz once they have it.. they have it... and they don't question it!)

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