dbleblanc
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| 12/18/2007 3:24 PM |
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| Oh my gosh.... I should not have read this!! I stopped reading after a few posts but I take it Nora you will pay for this???? Bless you!!!! |
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PamWh
Rattitude Problem
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| 12/18/2007 4:02 PM |
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| I am curious to hear how much the total cost was for euthanasia. Surely we aren't talking about more than $100? That is a very small price to pay for the comfort and caring of a pet the last few minutes of life. |
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PamWh
aka Bob's Mom
If your rattie ain't happy, ain't nobody happy! |
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rattytatty
Newbie
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| 12/18/2007 9:53 PM |
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Things are very solemn here tonight... Elmo was allowed to go to sleep peacefully in my vet's office... and has been buried on the farm where he loved to run free during the many many times he visited here from Michigan. It wasn't like I didn't know this dog... after all my brother owned Elmo for 17 years.
Pam... the cost was $65.00... but I would have paid it regardless of how much it was.
My brother and I have made amends... and he agreed we did the right thing. He's actually not handling it very well... he has asked to be alone, and we have respected his wishes.
Thank you all so much for your support ... it has been a very emotional day... but Elmo is at peace now, and I can just envision him at the Rainbow Bridge.
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Morgan
Moderator
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| 12/18/2007 10:32 PM |
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I'm glad Elmo was able to go peacefully....thanks to you Nora. I'm sure he is very thankful.
I was curious when reading your posts...does your brother not have a regular vet that he takes his dogs to? I don't know how you could possibly shoot a dog you have loved for 17 years even if you did think it was the right thing to do.
At least things ended peacefully for Elmo AND for you and your brother. |
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-Morgan (Bella's Mommy) |
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NikoWafer
Terrier Terror
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| 12/18/2007 11:33 PM |
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| I know you said he's from the "old school" way of thinking. Trust me I understand. I come from a very old world family, so I have many family members like this. But after reading how he reacted after putting Elmo down, maybe it was just his way of reacting. Some people don't mourn very well. This could have been something like that. I'm just glad the situation has worked out for the best for Elmo. Thank you for being his angel. |
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Victoria
Goodnight, sweet princess. You are still on your own; be stoic, dont panic; get through this hell to the generous sweet overflowing, giving, love of spring. - Sylvia Plath
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garyjena
Terrier Terror
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| 12/19/2007 7:52 AM |
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| RIP Elmo! Godspeed!!! |
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DaisysMom
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| 12/19/2007 8:14 AM |
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| I'm glad also that you were able to do this for Elmo. I'm sorry your brother didn't handle it well from the beginning, but it's nice to see you've made amends. |
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Tracey - Darlin' Daisy's Mom
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rattytatty
Newbie
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| 12/19/2007 8:35 AM |
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No, he doesn't mourn "well" (I mean... who does really?) He has a regular vet in Michigan. He actually does give his dogs good vet care. But he wanted to bury him here... plus he said he had no place in Michigan to bury him (very small yard... which stays frozen usually in the winter). Elmo always LOVED coming down to Tennessee and running free all over the farm... and that's where he wanted him to be.
Why in the world he initially thought he wanted to end Elmo's life with a bullet is beyond me. We didn't discuss it last night... we were both too consumed with emotions and I felt it was best just to make amends and let it go. Sometimes, that's all you can do. It's over... it's behind us... Elmo had a very peaceful ending... that's all that matters at this point.
But thanks everyone for your support yesterday. I truly was in a bad "way"...
Today is a fresh day.. and it will be a better day... |
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PamWh
Rattitude Problem
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| 12/19/2007 9:22 AM |
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| I'm glad Elmo is at peace now and buried on the farm where he loved to play. I'm sorry such a sad thing had to happen right before the holidays and that you and your brother had a fight. I'm glad to hear you both have made up and put it behind you. |
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PamWh
aka Bob's Mom
If your rattie ain't happy, ain't nobody happy! |
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Rybekka
Ratterific
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| 12/19/2007 10:06 AM |
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Sometimes.. not always.... Men are pigs.
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rattytatty
Newbie
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| 12/19/2007 10:55 AM |
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| Rybekka... no all men are not pigs. I don't stereotype genders that way. Men AND women can all be "pigs" on occasion... myself included. (bet no one knew that, eh? haha) |
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Russ' Pal
Rat-A-Tat-Tat
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| 12/19/2007 11:18 AM |
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| When I was a kid my parents took the family dog out to the woods behind my grandparent's to put her down when she got real old and in a bad way. They were both raised on farms and that's just how they were raised, kind of a "take care of your own" mindset. |
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-Sarah, pal to Russ & Peca |
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SkittlesMOM
Ratastic
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| 12/19/2007 11:27 AM |
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We had a bunny when I was a kid (LONG time ago) and when we didn't take good enough care of it, my parents gave it to some people they knew that owned a farm.
We kids found out YEARS later that these people ATE our pet bunny Happy 
Obviously my parents didn't know they were going to do that!!! |
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rattytatty
Newbie
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| 12/19/2007 2:28 PM |
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When I was small, we slaughtered our cows and processed the beef... so having been raised on a farm, I know about a lot of that sort of stuff. But to me... that's different. Cows don't sleep with you... cuddle with you... travel with you... they aren't companions like our dogs are.
But, that's just the mindset he has.. and he honestly doesn't see anything wrong with it. I can't change the way he thinks... but I did get my way because I foot the bill for it, which is fine. That's what counts in my mind. I remember growing up too we used to take our dogs to the local rabies clinic each summer for their rabies shots, but that's all we did. I don't remember constantly taking them to the vet for things like teeth-cleaning... other types of shots... flea control... heartworm meds, etc. I also know that my father would call the vet for a cow before he would a dog... the livestock were our livelihood...
Patty -- how horrible that they ate your bunny !!! Oh my !! |
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Russ' Pal
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| 12/19/2007 2:36 PM |
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| I'm glad you intervened Nora, I'm sure it's better for your brother (and Elmo, of course) in the long run- although he'll never admit that. That would have been a horrible memory for your brother to carry around. And you may be surprised, he might make different choices when his other dogs reach that stage. Sometimes people have a hard time seeing that there are other options until someone shows them. |
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-Sarah, pal to Russ & Peca |
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PamWh
Rattitude Problem
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| 12/19/2007 2:38 PM |
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| Did he bring his other dogs with him on this visit? How are they coping with the loss of Elmo? |
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PamWh
aka Bob's Mom
If your rattie ain't happy, ain't nobody happy! |
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rattytatty
Newbie
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| 12/19/2007 2:56 PM |
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He has one other dog.... a 3-year old weimermaner (sp?) named Gracie. She's doing fine... hanging close to him last night. Am sure she sensed his grief....
Yes.. I intervened.. but unfortunately, I didn't do it in a very classy, professional way. In reality... I "lost it" with him and was not nice at all. I regret that... and apologized for it... but he said some things that weren't very nice either. It's what happens sometimes when emotions soar out the roof, ya know?
I know it probably surprises everyone that I'm not perfect.... *S* |
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PamWh
Rattitude Problem
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| 12/19/2007 3:07 PM |
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| Nora, I think our siblings can push our buttons no matter how old we get. I know if my sister and I are in the same room for very long, we start acting like we're 10 years old again. |
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PamWh
aka Bob's Mom
If your rattie ain't happy, ain't nobody happy! |
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rattytatty
Newbie
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| 12/19/2007 3:10 PM |
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Pam... 10-year olds don't use words like I used... haha (thank goodness!)
I truly was ugly... but he was treading on thin ground with me concerning a subject I'm passionate about.. and he knows it. Not justifying my actions.. just saying I feel very strongly about animals and their rights... ya know?
But yes... I do know what you are saying re: family members.
I probably would have been nicer to a stranger. Well.. maybe not.. :=( |
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