I have been told that a judge will not even consider asking the child until the age of 12. Here is a new twist. He called me this afternoon to tell me that he is seeing a lwayer today to discuss this w/ him. He says that his employer charges $10 each week for handling garnishment. I don't believe THAT. Lucky for me my husband works there too so I have him looking into it for me. IF that is the case I will agree to have him pay me directly but I still want DHHS to settle the amount. UGH!!!! This is all such a huge waste of time, energy, EVERYTHING! Why do this?

I would still have DHHS handle it even if he is charged a fee.  Here's what I found on the Internet:

Fees

Employers may charge the Employee an administrative fee for processing the wage withholding order each pay period. The maximum amount is set by state law, and the fee must be withheld from the Employee's other wages, not the child support payment.

Maine . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . $2.00 per remittance

Amy - I'm so sorry that you & Kailey have to go through all of this. It sure brings back some very bad memories for me... because my ex was just like yours. He tried to humiliate me constantly in front of the kids, saying he couldn't affort to do anything with his kids, because of the "exorbitant" amount of child support he had to pay me. This was after we settled on everything out of court (like he wanted) and he was paying less than he would have if it had gone to court, plus I refused to ask for alimony. I could barely make ends meet as it was, and then when our son turned 15 my ex talked him into moving in with him, so that he could just cut the support he was paying in 1/2. I knew it wasn't legal for him to just do it, but I didn't have any fight left in me. I found out later he was making 3 times what he was when we got our divorce, but I never once asked for a support increase. If I had to go through it all again, I would NEVER have negotated with him without an attorney on my side.  One of the happiest days of my life was the day he no longer had support payments to make... and knowing I would never have to deal with him again.  
Hang in there... and wishing you all the best!  

 OH MY GOD! I mean I figured he was lying but COME ON!

In Wisconsin child support is set at 17% of the income the paying parent makes and the fee is $3.00 each payperiod and that is paid by the child support office from the paying parents monies not the receiving parent.  There are lawyers out there that will give help for very reduced or free.  Contact yor local child supprt agancy and explain it to them.

Thanks guys. My husband and I have been doing alot of our own research. I'm not afraid of him anymore. I know he can't hurt me. But, if he does battle this out in court, it WILL hurt Kailey. I am NOT backing down this time! BRING IT ON PAL!!!!!!

You Go Girl!!!!!!!

Did you read ALL the posts from the beginning of this thread? If so you would lnow you are WAY out of line with your comments/questions. I NEVER called him a deadbeat. HE said I am making him feel like one. I am not dragging us through court HE is. The ONLY money I have asked for in the past 9 yrs is 1/2 the cost of her activities. I ahev never asked for an increase in support. In our state it is very common for child support top go through DHS. It has NOTHING to do with wether or not the parent paying support has missed payments or not. Also in Maine the custodial parent(ME) is entitled to an increase every THREE years. It has been NINE YEARS. Am I on a power trip? ABSOLUTELY not. Do I really need more money to raise her? Um...yeah. Heard of cost of living increases? Can you afford to live on what you earned 9 yrs ago? Of course you can't. Your comments have really struck a nerve.

Going to check it now. OOOOOooooooo that person SET me off!

Holy COW! Where do you get off?! No kidding Pam This chick does sound like my ex. Think of HIS checkbook?! You mean the one that buys his Harley, four wheeler, mountain bike, dirt bike, snowmobile? That checkbook? What threat? How about "I'll sue you for custody?" How does that sound for a power trip? There is NO piece missing. Have I tried to talk to him? OH YEAH!  I talk, he swears and screams and calls me vulgar names. Sorry that your ex never comes around. Maybe you are a bit bitter and jealous? I have PLENTY more on the tip of my tongue to tell you but I respect the other people on this site.

Obviously you did NOT read the other posts. Kailey gets p/u by her Dad every Friday then she gets dumped in someone elses hands so he can go "play" at 36 yrs old with his "toys". She cries when she comes home because she did not see him. You are clearly not well informed AND a very bitter scorned woman. Just because a father pays minimal support ( less than what was court ordered 9 yrs ago) and sees his daughter a couple hours a week does not exclude him from any other responsibility. I think it's time for a moderator to lock this topic. Dumont you can say whatever you want. I'm done here. Tracey, Morgan, Lance please lock this before it gets any uglier.