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ivy

Rat-A-Tat-Tat

09/05/2008 8:45 PM
My 8 year old just told me he wants to quit fall baseball. Because the boys make fun of him. He is admittedly not the best on the team. But this is suppose to be a developmental season where they can learn and not be degraded to the point of physically getting ill at the thought of going to practice. My poor little boy had tears in his eyes as he told me this. The sad thing about the whole thing is he loves baseball he just does not have the skills yet to play. I am so sad for him. To make matters worse his brother(13) is the athletic star who excels at all sports. So I think I will let him quit. I don't like to let my kids quit at things they start but baseball really is not all that important in the whole scheme of things right?

Emg

Terrier Terror

09/05/2008 9:04 PM
Ugh...some kids can be so mean, huh? I remember my older brother was teased mercilessly all through his school years. He would come home crying at times...it still makes me angry just thinking about it. Unfortunately, you can't quit school. He played baseball as well for a time, but no one teased him there, because they all pretty much weren't very good, lol. (oddly, they seemed to have a lot more fun than the better teams) See if you can fix the problem first. I'd like to know were the coach is in all this. Talk to him about it, and have him talk to those boys and their parents. Or do so yourself. I remember when some kids started teasing my little brother (runs in the family, I guess) another kid told the teacher, and when one of the kid's father heard about it, he marched his son up to our house to apologize. Unfortunately, my brother wasn't home. Haven't had a problem since. Is there another baseball team that he can join? If there isn't, I wouldn't recommend forcing him to keep playing. Sorry, but I really don't have anymore advice. Hope everything turns out good for you.

Sara, Sam's mommy

ivy

Rat-A-Tat-Tat

09/05/2008 9:24 PM
well the coach just called and said he would talk with the boys. But I always see it happening behind the coaches backs when they are not looking. If the other boys would admit it, none of them are not that good either but they just think they are. Unfortunately Daniel has always been really easy to pick on. He is such a neat little boy but most kids just don't get him. I don't think the coach really cared he was kind of half talking to me and half talking to someone one else so I will not make him go back but if he wants to go to the game Sat afternoon I will take him and see how it goes. Another thing that really bugs me is the assistant coach tonight if a boy made an error they had to take a lap. I am not sure if that is teaching them anything except endurance because at this age they need to make the error to learn what to do. It seems to me like punishing a dog for doing something you have not taught him to do or not do.

Emg

Terrier Terror

09/05/2008 9:28 PM
gee whiz, sounds like a great team.

Sara, Sam's mommy

melo

Ratastic

09/05/2008 9:43 PM
My two cents here. First I am sorry about the teasing--kids are the worst and I wish that schools would do more about such things---but that is a whole subject--- The coach sounds like a frustrated bully himself. I do not know what you can do since I do not have kids, but I do want to say that every kid has something they are really good at, even if it is not apparent yet!!! I would watch out to see if he is good at the arts or the sciences or any things that are not so obvious when they are that young. He may be good at building things or writing---it may turn out to be a group activity at some point. He may end up conducting and orchestra--who knows!!! Of course if he is so inclined he can practice his sports and maybe he will progress best Melo

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danbenau

Rat-A-Tat-Tat

09/05/2008 9:52 PM
Posted By ivy on 09/05/2008 9:24 PM well the coach just called and said he would talk with the boys. But I always see it happening behind the coaches backs when they are not looking. If the other boys would admit it, none of them are not that good either but they just think they are. Unfortunately Daniel has always been really easy to pick on. He is such a neat little boy but most kids just don't get him. I don't think the coach really cared he was kind of half talking to me and half talking to someone one else so I will not make him go back but if he wants to go to the game Sat afternoon I will take him and see how it goes. Another thing that really bugs me is the assistant coach tonight if a boy made an error they had to take a lap. I am not sure if that is teaching them anything except endurance because at this age they need to make the error to learn what to do. It seems to me like punishing a dog for doing something you have not taught him to do or not do. Oddly enough, I understand the lap. It won't hurt him, but it brings home the point of making the mistake. As far as forcing your son to go, or allowing him to quit - I'd probably tell him to give it one more try. If it's still not fun, then quit. It's one thing to quit because you want to, another to be driven out. If you just let him quit now, he'll remember it as being driven out. Having been a chubby kid, I was never a good runner. I did learn how to put my weight behind the swing and voila! I was a power hitter. That's when I decided it was a stupid game and quit. My HS sports ended up as fencing and tennis.

His name is Hendryx! He's a rat terrier! OK!

ivy

Rat-A-Tat-Tat

09/05/2008 10:16 PM
He is very good at building things and the art of destruction. Loves Lego's, math, growing things, art,science, fishing, swimming, just not really good socially (he has ADHD). He is just the cutest kid ya ever did see Blond blue eye if anything to skinny. I hope that he will go back because his mental game it far and above all the other kids because he has been to so many games and practices of his brothers not to mention the time at the baseball cage, just physically his body coordination has not caught up with his mental game. This summer he must have added 6 inches in height and I am not sure his head can control his body yet. Lets put it this way he is just a little shorter than his 13 year old brother. I hope the other boys can just be nice. Dan it is not just one lap it is one lap for every error and at this age that is just about every other play or so. The boys do more running than playing ball.

singingpilgrim

Ratastic

09/05/2008 10:26 PM
Hey! I just found out, at age 22, that my sport is fencing! What kind do you do? Or did? I do sabre... I was the teased kid all through school. I was the pariah, the outcast... and it sucked. I applaud you taking him off the team, if you do... it helps to know your parents are on your side when your peers are not... At the same time, as a reassurance, I want to say that I'm grateful that it happened to me. I didn't have a happy childhood, even though my parents and sisters are great, they didn't make up for the torture that was my childhood... However, I could not be, would not be, even recognizably similiar to the woman I became without the childhood I have.. And I love myself. Therefore I will be forever grateful to God that I had the childhood I had... But I didn't get this attitude until I was about twenty. It's not an immediate comfort, and every kid is different... but I just thought I'd let you know, in case it doesn't get better... But be the soft place for your kid to fall. It helps big time.

Pamela ~Sophia Abigail's Mom~ Ratbones Rescue Volunteer

melo

Ratastic

09/05/2008 10:39 PM
pamela---20 is a great time to have made such progress!!!!! I can't say the same for myself at that age ... Dan- you sound like you were a regular BABE RUTH!!!! Ivy--what ever you do will be right as he knows that he is loved at home---It does sound like he will be the next dot.com billionaire And remember this--the olympic guy Phelps---was terribly teased when he was young and had ADD---who got the last laugh!!!!

Nora's mommie -- www.melodybreyer-grell.com Selling CD's with 50 percent going to Ratbones!! Check it out!

ivy

Rat-A-Tat-Tat

09/05/2008 10:49 PM
Thanks Melo He is my baby and very well love for his different ways. I still think he may save the world someday with his ingenious thinking!!! Yes he does love the computer too!!

tauney4

Pack Leader

09/05/2008 10:56 PM
i will tell you kids are the most visouse critters in the world they are worse than an animal!!! i feel for your little boy

k_dmom33

Terrier Terror

09/05/2008 11:00 PM
If my kid came to me in tears and did not want to go back, I dont think I could make him go back. I know we are supposed to teach our kids life lessons about not quitting, sticking things out and such but in a situation where a kids is being teased and made fun of it will only rip away his confidence. If he choses to go back himself then I would let him, but I wouldnt make him. JMO...good luck with this. Seeing your child in pain is the most heartbreaking thing.

~~Teresa~~

ivy

Rat-A-Tat-Tat

09/05/2008 11:13 PM
He was just very quiet about it and just barely had the tears started and would not get out of the car and that was when he told me about the problem with the other boys. He just came in and told me that he wants to go to the game tomorrow and sit in the stands and watch the game so I guess that is progress. I don't really know.

lynnygal

Rat-A-Tat-Tat

09/06/2008 12:19 AM
Gosh, these life lessons are not easy are they?? I think the kids now are even meaner than when most of us were growing up. I always tell my daughter....."when you hurt, I hurt twice"....and as parents we can so relate. I totally understand your not wanting him to quit....but at the same time I don't know if I could "make" him go if he was so unhappy. Since you have spoken with the coach, see what happens next time the kids are together....if it is still unbearable for your son, then let the decision be his to quit....hopefully he'll find something else he'd be interested in..... Sorry you and he are having to go through this.....it's one of those life things kids go through..... Lynn

--------------------- lynnygal ---------------------------------

Gail and Lilly

Obsessed

09/06/2008 3:35 AM
I was on the recieving end of being teased through out most of my school years and it was horrible to make matters worse my sister would join in with the teasers and she was just as relentless as the other kids and made it clear that she was embarrassed that I was her sister. And when I went to talk to my dad about it he simply brushed me off and would try and find reasons for it to be my fault. I wish I would have had someone who cared as much as you do for your son to have made it right for me. I think it made me a good person but at the same time it made me always doubt myself and never really sure if people really liked me or if they were just being nice and I was never sure if I was good enough for people to want me in their life. And I think if my dad had ever stood up for me then maybe I would have not been so hard on myself. And no I would not make him go back I would let him decide on his own.

There is only one thing money cannot buy, the wag of a dog's tail

dtls224

Terrier Terror

09/06/2008 7:50 PM
I know for my youngest whe he startd baseball he was not good at all. I found a program through community education that was between whiffle ball and little league. He was in it until this last summer. He is 9 now and being in the inbetweenprogram really helped to strengthen his abilities. Maybe you could find something like that for your son.

tina224...live...laugh...love...and bark at the moon He is your friend, your partner, your defender, your dog. You are his life, his love, his leader. He will be yours, faithful and true, to the last beat of his heart. You owe it to him to be worthy of such devotion." ~Unknown

winnihoohoo

Bratty Ratty

09/06/2008 7:57 PM
Posted By ivy on 09/05/2008 8:45 PM My 8 year old just told me he wants to quit fall baseball. Because the boys make fun of him. He is admittedly not the best on the team. But this is suppose to be a developmental season where they can learn and not be degraded to the point of physically getting ill at the thought of going to practice. My poor little boy had tears in his eyes as he told me this. The sad thing about the whole thing is he loves baseball he just does not have the skills yet to play. I am so sad for him. To make matters worse his brother(13) is the athletic star who excels at all sports. So I think I will let him quit. I don't like to let my kids quit at things they start but baseball really is not all that important in the whole scheme of things right? It would be nice if his brother would work with him, at home, so he could catch up on his baseball skills...

LadyLes

Terrier Terror

09/06/2008 8:11 PM
I say if he's good at swimming, then let him swim instead of play baseball. Kids should be encouraged to play to their strong suits...why force it if it's not natural? Know what I mean? If it is essential for him to "play" a sport, then swimming is really "HOT" right now because of all of the Michael Phelps publicity.

There is nothing better than wine and chocolate! ~Ashley~

danbenau

Rat-A-Tat-Tat

09/06/2008 10:33 PM
Posted By singingpilgrim on 09/05/2008 10:26 PM Hey! I just found out, at age 22, that my sport is fencing! What kind do you do? Or did? I do sabre... [snip] I did foil and some epee. The YMCA and later my HS couldn't afford the liability insurance that went with saber. If everyone thinks laps are bad, the fencing master that I had for my first 5 years in the sport had this little routine. If we made a mistake he would mime throwing a coin on the ground. He would then tell us to pick up the coin. He would then give us a hearty (and I do mean HEARTY) wack on the rear end with the foil. He did say, however, that the people who didn't pick up the coins never got rich (ie, people who don't make mistakes to learn from never really learn). I learned the lesson, but I could have done without the child abuse.

His name is Hendryx! He's a rat terrier! OK!

ivy

Rat-A-Tat-Tat

09/06/2008 10:49 PM
I don't think it is essential for him to play sports but he wanted another go at it after skipping a year because he found tee-ball BORING. The funny thing about him is he plays to the level of the other kids on the team because he is so much bigger than the other kids he tells me he does not want to throw too hard and hurt someone else. When he is playing with his brother and his friends he does so much better cause he is not afraid to hurt someone. We went fishing today (even if mom has no idea what the heck we are doing) and he had a blast and did not catch anything just hanging out next to the river first and then we went to the pier cause he can usually catch some little one to toss back but nothing was biting today.LOL Had a good time. He is thinking about Basketball now because he is getting so tall. I did not take his jersey back yet if he decides to go to practice on Wed. I will let him or we will just turn it back in. Any way thanks for the advice I know he will do great at what ever he decides to do and I will back him at anything!!!

singingpilgrim

Ratastic

09/06/2008 11:54 PM
Well my senior year at college the new philosophy professor started a fencing club. He was the west coast fencing champion in men's sabre before he joined our faculty, so... I know nothing about liability insurance or anything... all I know is I want to join again this year (even though I graduated I'm invited back) and want to buy my own equipment... but there are other things that require my money first... sigh...

Pamela ~Sophia Abigail's Mom~ Ratbones Rescue Volunteer

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