susannasmommy
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| 09/04/2008 5:48 PM |
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This makes her second loss this year. The 1st was at 12 weeks and she completely miscarried that one. This one made it a bit farther, to about 15 weeks, so she's going in for a D&E. She's checking in tonight and they will do the procedure at 7:30 in the morning. They gave her the option to inducelabor and to deliver the baby, but she passed on it. I think I would have too. They talked about closure, and her seeing the baby and things, but at 15 weeks...I think she made the right choice.
She went in today to find out the baby's gender at 22 weeks along, and there was no heartbeat. While I was on the phone with her, she said, "How can it be dead? I feel something moving inside me right now."  I nearly lost it. It took all I had to keep myself composed for her at that moment (it wouldn't have mattered, but she typically takes emotional ques from me for some reason, so I thought it best to stay calm so she'd stay calm as well). I told her that I suppose she's been feeling gas, but that I also didn't know how a dead baby was in her for 7 weeks and she never knew. I suppose we are both baffled at the moment. 
Please keep her, her husband, and their little boy in your prayers. He's never been away from Mommy and we're not sure how he'll fare. He can be a...errr...quite a handful  I hope his grandmother can do it!! She's 6 hours from me, so I can't be of much help at the moment. I'd give anything to be there with her, though. |
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Tabitha
www.myspace.com/susannasmommy |
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bbsmom
Rattie
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| 09/04/2008 5:52 PM |
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| i will keep them in my prayers |
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Just call Dani mom to a Monster on 4 legs we call BB |
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Mitzy's Mom
PAWesome
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| 09/04/2008 5:56 PM |
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| I'm so sorry, that must be awful to go through. |
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Mary Beth, mom to the Lollipop Kids
Georgia Foster Mom, New Rattitude
Check out our ratties at www.newrattitude.org |
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Brandy
Firehouse Big Dog
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| 09/04/2008 6:13 PM |
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| I am so sorry. The girl that works with me carried a baby to term last november, went into labor and lost the baby during labor. Then she has been pregnant twice in the last 6mos and lost both of those. She is pregnant again, so far so good, but she stays scared to death. Please know that my prayers are with you and your sister. |
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PROUD Home Visit Coordinator for Ratbone's Rescue!!
This is Pirate Country, we bleed Purple and Gold!!!!!
GO ECU!!! |
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vccarmi
Ratastic
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| 09/04/2008 6:14 PM |
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| sSo sorry to hear that. I've known a couple people that'shappened to - one was only a week away from deliivery. |
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Vickie, Ratbone Rescues Pet Publicist
My Etsy shop: http://www.etsy.com/shop.php?user_id=6237153
http://www.dogster.com/dogs/19252 (Daisey)
http://www.dogster.com/dogs/19625 (Eddie)
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michelle
Firehouse Big Dog
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| 09/04/2008 6:18 PM |
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I am so very sorry. Of course she and her family will b ein my prayers. |
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michelle, mom to Sydney (JRT), Sonic (Rattie), Buddy(Jack-Rat) and Proud mom to Army son, Jordan
http://www.dogster.com/dogs/893222 Sydney
http://www.dogster.com/dogs/893220 Sonic
http://www.dogster.com/dogs/901405 Buddy
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Amy
Bratty Ratty
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| 09/04/2008 6:43 PM |
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OMG how awful. Must be hard for you also being so far away. How do they know the baby died 7 weeks ago? |
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thecunninghams5.shutterfly.com
myspace.com/mrscunningham |
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tiggarat
Bratty Ratty
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| 09/04/2008 6:44 PM |
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I'm so sorry. I can't even begin to imagine what she's going through.  One of my SIL's has had 2 tubal pregnancies and I know it was so hard for her to deal with the loss both times. It's so hard to even know what to say in these cases... ((HUGS)) |
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Lisabeth
furbabies: Lucy and Molly (1 1/2 yr old decker ratties), and Rosie (3 yr old dobie)
Buddy - gone but never forgotten.
"I don't think he has any idea he's a dog, really. Of course, he thinks he has a rather odd figure for a man" - Dodie Smith |
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kp_in_scott
Firehouse Big Dog
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| 09/04/2008 6:54 PM |
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Posted By Amy on 09/04/2008 6:43 PM
OMG how awful. Must be hard for you also being so far away. How do they know the baby died 7 weeks ago?
They can tell by the sonogram how developed the baby is. That can give them a very good estimate of what the babies age is. If she's supposed to be 22 weeks, and the baby is only developed to 15 weeks, then it died approximately 7 weeks ago, give or take a week.
People don't realize how common fetal death is. Sometimes, you never know why, sometimes there may be an abnormality that is not compatible with life, sometimes the mother is exposed to some type of virus that she never knows she had or even had any symptoms and it takes the babies life.
Each baby is a precious gift, no matter how long their little lives. We need to realize how miraculous every live birth is. So many things can happen....
Prayers for you and your sister and her family. |
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Kim, owned by one sweet Rattie mix and one sweet Toy Rattie and a house full of parrots |
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singingpilgrim
Ratastic
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| 09/04/2008 7:46 PM |
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| I am so sorry. |
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Pamela
~Sophia Abigail's Mom~
Ratbones Rescue Volunteer |
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bratt
Firehouse Big Dog
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| 09/04/2008 7:53 PM |
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So sad. Prayers. I hope your sister and her family, (as well as you) will be o.k. Hard stuff to deal with. Sorry, just no words for this...... |
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Debra~KSSM Queen II
Savanna~Princess Easy Street
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treble02
Alpha Feist
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| 09/04/2008 7:57 PM |
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cant imagine....ll definitely keep your
family in my prayers! (((HUGS))) |
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~ Mary, Trixi and Toa's Mommy,
Ratbone Rescues Database Manager
and Applications Coordinator
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Lucy's Mommy
Terrier Terror
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| 09/04/2008 8:09 PM |
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| I am very sorry for your loss. The same thing happened to my brother's first wife. Very sad, indeed. |
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DaisysMom
Moderator
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| 09/04/2008 8:29 PM |
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| You have my most sincere condolences. Such a sad loss. |
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Tracey - Darlin' Daisy's Mom
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lynnygal
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| 09/04/2008 9:20 PM |
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Oh, that is so sad......I have a friend of mine who lost several babies before she finally carried full term....now she has two healthy happy girlies..... This is a tough thing to endure once much less multiple times. Glad your sister has you to lean on and talk to.....
Lynn
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tauney4
Pack Leader
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| 09/04/2008 9:25 PM |
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| gosh i am really sorry for your sister i cant imagine how hard that would be to lose a baby. please send her my thoughts and prayers!!!!!!! |
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dtls224
Terrier Terror
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| 09/05/2008 1:04 AM |
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| My prayers to you and allof your family. I know personally what she is going through and love will see her through. |
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tina224...live...laugh...love...and bark at the moon
He is your friend, your partner, your defender, your dog. You are his life, his love, his leader. He will be yours, faithful and true, to the last beat of his heart. You owe it to him to be worthy of such devotion." ~Unknown |
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dbleblanc
Bratty Ratty
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| 09/05/2008 1:12 AM |
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| So sorry to hear that. Have experienced situations like this with family members that have carried full term before their loss and it is never easy no matter the circumstances. My prayers and thoughts are with the whole family. |
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Donna (mommy to Kasey & Molly) |
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milly
Terrier Terror
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| 09/05/2008 1:49 AM |
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I am in tears ...oh hard can that be....lots of love.......Milly |
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Milly.....Owned by Murry!!! |
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gwacie
Rat-A-Tat-Tat
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| 09/05/2008 7:11 AM |
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| So sorry for their loss - this is a very hard thing to go through repeatedly. |
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gwacie (Bethany)
My Doggies: http://www.myadams.net/dogs/
Rescue: http://www.newrattitude.org |
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susannasmommy
Ratastic
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| 09/05/2008 8:31 AM |
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Thanks for the well wishes, thoughts, and prayers. Last night, as of almost midnight, she was doing OK...waiting very impatiently for an Ambien from a nurse so she could go to sleep, but I digress  She kept saying how worried she was about her little boy. He'll be 2 in December and she's never spent a night away from him. I think it was something to keep her brain occupied so she wouldn't think about what lay ahead this morning.
The procedure should be done by now, hopefully. I'm impatiently awaiting a call.
Thanks again everyone!! |
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Tabitha
www.myspace.com/susannasmommy |
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alice4512
Firehouse Big Dog
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| 09/05/2008 8:49 AM |
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I am so very sorry for your families loss. I can't even imagine how hard that must be on your sister. |
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The great pleasure of a dog is that you may make a fool of yourself with him and not only will he not scold you, but he will make a fool of himself too
~Mom to my good boy Fred and my crazy girl Alice~
Proud applications coordinator for Ratbone Rescue |
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Gail and Lilly
Obsessed
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| 09/05/2008 8:59 AM |
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I am so very sorry I know personally how much it hurts and I am sending my prayers to your sister, and your family. |
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There is only one thing money cannot buy, the wag of a dog's tail |
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PamWh
Rattitude Problem
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| 09/05/2008 9:04 AM |
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| I'll be keeping your sister and her family in my prayers. |
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PamWh
aka Bob's Mom
If your rattie ain't happy, ain't nobody happy! |
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rattagan's mom
Rat-A-Tat-Tat
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| 09/05/2008 9:09 AM |
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| Your sister and her family are in my prayers. I lost my only child due to a tubal preganacy and had to have an emergency hysterectomy. I feel your sister's pain and sorrow. May the Great Spirit lay His healing hand upon her and lessen her grief over the loss of her baby. |
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Janie,
Ratty,Cameo,Cutter and Nala Belle's Mom
Show your furbaby how much you love them brush their teeth today! It saves them pain "tomorrow." Janie L. |
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doecart
Terrier Terror
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| 09/05/2008 9:10 AM |
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So sorry to hear of this Tabitha. You and your family will be in my thoughts. |
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rattytatty
Training Moderator
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| 09/05/2008 9:16 AM |
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| Sorry to hear this news.... good thoughts and prayers from my crew here in Tennessee. |
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~Nora~
Mom to Hoss, Lil'Bit, Buster & Bailey, CGC, OA, OAJ |
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SuzieRedhead
Rat-A-Tat-Tat
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| 09/05/2008 9:25 AM |
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I am very sorry for your sister's and family's loss. Hugs and prayers! |
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Sue Carello, Scotia, NY (near Albany)
Ratbone Rescues Fostermom, etc...
www.ratbonerescues.com
Fostermom to Oh Mickey and Prince Ratbone
Who do YOU GoodSearch/GoodShop for? Go to www.goodsearch.com and type in Ratbone Rescues! |
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swatson6
Attention Starved
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| 09/05/2008 9:59 AM |
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| Keeping you and yours in my thoughts. |
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Sarah
Mom to Jack, Jeter and foster mom to Teagan
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susannasmommy
Ratastic
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| 09/05/2008 12:07 PM |
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All went well this morning. Now its her state of mind I will worry about. Something really bad has happened to her every 3 months for the past year and 1/4...her FIL killed himself (at work, no less, and caused a HUGE scandal in the area that no one can seem to live down), 3 months after that, our Dad died, 3 months after that, her husband's favorite uncle died, 3 months after that, she had a miscarriage, 3 months after that, Aunt Billie died, and now she's lost another baby.
Can I just insert a big "somebody give her a frikkin' break?" here???
Thanks again for everything You guys are great! |
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Tabitha
www.myspace.com/susannasmommy |
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