Okay long story made simi short, My life is falling apart!!!! I work only nights now still going in on my days off and working all the over time that I can get and my husband works morings the only time we every see each other is as he comes home and I'm walking out the door to work. I was working mornings where I was getting dropped off at work at 6am to wait till 7 or later when the boss would get there to let me in and staying late till Daniel could pick me up. I also am still going in on days off if I'm needed. Well Also I'm now becoming the closing person,starting tonight I've only been working there one month,  and will have to stay later than usual. And in the last three or four weeks I've only seen my daugter a hand full of times and those where only for a few hours she has had to stay with the grandparents while we get ready to move and watch our bills become 4x higher thanks to that.     Well I'm also going crazy that I'm putting on weight, for no reason Nothing in diet or working out has changed.  Now Daniel and I have a falling out this morning and he is ready to call it quits. I have no friends to talk to and my few family members could careless. Sorry but I had to vent to some one.

Is it possible to move to somethign more affordable and look for a new job? If nothing else maybe talk to your boss and tell him you need to go back to days for the sake of your family or you have to quit. NOTHING is more important than your marriage or child, no job in the world. You can find a new job but not a new family. Good luck with whatever you may choose.

Your telling me the truth in the past month I swear I've have at least one close to be heart attack I had my entire left side go numb and the pain in my chest was unbarible(sp) , this has happend with just the bad chest pains a few times before, and knowing my family has extremly bad heart problems is worries me but nothing that I can do about it. But the only thing is I have no choice but to keep pushing on the way I am or  we will go under. I feel like at 24 I'm fighting a lossing battle with myself.  It dosen't help that I've lost contact with any and all friends and my family just tells me thats life deal with it.

No we are moving to the cheapest place in town, and I just started this job a month ago. The manager is my old manager from another store, and we are short handed as it is and have not choice on changing the hours and can't afford to quit. Thats the worst thing about it, I'm completly stuck in this situation.

Goodness! That is way to much stress at 24 years old. You have the world on oyur shoulders girl. Your daughter is three? She needs her Mom. Sounds like hubby needs to take on a second job. Any job. My husband works 12-16 hour days so I can stay home with the kids. Sweetie you need to take care of yourself first, then your family. It will all be okay. You've gotten alot of good advice here already.

Wow!  It sure sounds as if things are rough for you and your family.  Please try to take a little time for yourself, 15 minutes of me time can help a lot.  Maybe your hubby could get a second job to take some of the pressure off of you.  Moveing is very stressful.  Hopefully things will calm down after the move. 

Okay to answer every ones questions real quick before I start packing again, about Daniel finding another job hes wanting to wait till after we've moved and we are past the part of bills from where we live know, where he works is a small cafe it was suppose to be temp for a few months but has been for over a year now, they are only open for that short period of time wont take part time job and even though I have one waiting for me he won't let me work parttime at all and bills at new place all being paid at the same time. Since we've already divorced once and are still tech. are it's weird in that area to. About cutting down on any extras that is not an option, we've never had cable(not even a washer and dryer so we do waste money there yet cant help it), the only thing you might call and extra is the internet but its how I pay and keep up with all our bills, bank, and student loan stuff, That really cant go. About Regan yes shes three and we don't pay them to watch her, yes she is very healthy I thank God for that. And Guen is always excited to see me come home she is about the only one, I came home last night and couldn't even talk to daniel he had the TV up and the computer on then got made because he didn't hear me yell hello. So there is a short update, on answers and how things are going, I'm glad that with every one here who has left me high and dry that I have found a place where I can get real feed back and just people who will listen.

I am so sorry you have such stress and you are only 24...Hopefully things will calm down a little once you have moved.  i am still a little confused-is yourhusband (ex?) simply refusing to work more than he is?  I certainly don't mean to offend, I just hope you have partner that will help you SHARE the burdens in life...I wish you had a better support system.  I am glad you feel you can vent here, such a caring group of people

Julie

sounds like you are bearing most of the burden, I am sorry for that...sometimes just a quiet moment w/your puppy can help get you through, I know it has for me

Oh my lord Crystal. I'm sorry, I really, really hope not to offend you but I really feel the need to speak my mind here. Dump the bum! My blood is BOILING. This is all insane. What he is putting you and your daughter through is ridiculous. Dump him and let him see how far he gets on his 7-2 job. Do you have family that you and your daughter can stay with to get yourself back on your feet? Couldn't help but notice th quote in your signature line. Take your own advice girl. Again, I am sorry, I hope I don't upset you with what I've said.

Oh my lord Crystal. What an awful mess. Okay so what about counseling for you and your ex. Would he go? Because I really don't think he respects you. Love maybe but not respect. This is not a healthy relationship.

Yikes, then I would suggest counseling at least for you.

There is room but Daniel refuses to do that it was my first suggestion considering what our rent would be, he didn't want to think about it with gas the price it is we both would be driving one hour to work and back, and with sharing a vehicle and working different shifts it wouldn't work out. But if things don't work out with us I might try to talk my sister in to doing that with me.