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Gail and Lilly


Obsessed
Obsessed
07/02/2008 12:32 AM  

Okay let me give you a bit of background.  My father raised my sister and I.  Our mother walked out on us when I was 2 and my sister was 5 months old and she left while our dad was at work.  Now dad wanted us to make our own choices about her so he let her visit us.  Despite the fact that when I was in the summer of my kindergarden year she kidnapped us and took us to PA and allowed a dog to bit my sister in the face and then did not get her treated dad found us just in time because the bite had become infected. 

 

Well over the years she would drop in and out of our lives.  When we were teenagers she decided to try and get us back and she played on the fact that we were naturally at the stage of rebellion and we tried to get to know her but she basically treated us like a toy whom she wanted when it suited her.  Well now we are both adults and we still try to give her chances but she says our dad has turned us against her which he hasn't.  Well today my sister stopped at her house to show her my nephew whom is three months old and her long time roomate answered the door and said she didn't want to get up because she had just laid down thirty minutes before that.  And my sis said she could smell the house, which is over run with pets, from several feet away.  And it just bothers me that she isn't even interested in her only grandkids yet shows interest in her roomates kids she says they are hers but she doesn't even attempt to call her own kids.  And I just don't get it.  I wish I had kids I can't imagine leaving your childlren.  

It hurts my feelings that she doesn't think we matter enough to even call us.  And now I want to find the old news articles from where mom kidnapped us.  I guess for a sense of closure.  Thanks for reading this and I am sorry it was so long. 


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ivy


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Rat-A-Tat-Tat
07/02/2008 12:56 AM  

I am so sorry to hear that. my boys' father is like that dropping in and out of thier lives.  I feel it is his/her (your mom) loss because at 8 and 13 my boys have him figured out.  I can not understand how a parent could do that but you and my boys are prob better off not having that kind of influence in your lives .  Sounds live your dad did great!!  I hate the fact that my boys' feel like it was something they did or didn't do and I figure thier dad is just a self centered jerk who just come around at his convience & don't really deserve a relationship with them, it takes time to build a relationship and if he don't put in the time well his loss and your moms  sometimes it seems like they are missing something up stairs if you know what I mean!!!

dtls224


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Terrier Terror
07/02/2008 1:20 AM  
I am so sorry that you are going through this..........some parents should never be raising kids and thank God you had your dad.........It is hard trying to constantly connect with a parent who does not care........My husbands father is like that..........this man lives 10 miles away and does not give my husband any thing at all...even when they se each other...........His father tried to kill him when he was 14 and since then his father has acted like he was nonexisistant..........I know how hard it will hurt but what I can say is to do what my husband did and that is to completely cut his father out of our lives........the kids do not have contact and they are the better for it..........I pray that peace comes to you and your sister very soon..........

tina224...live...laugh...love...and bark at the moon

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braeli_bryson


Terrier Terror
Terrier Terror
07/02/2008 7:21 AM  
i couldnt imagine it myself... but just think... what hasnt killed you made you stronger. goo dfor you looking for closure. time to move on, continue to live your life, and be the mother she never was.

"No one knows YOU better than YOU!"

gianni_mahopac, ny
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